Age four is the average age that children are first approached by perpetrators. Most perpetrators are family members or close friends. These perpetrators are not found on the America’s Most Wanted website. The good news is with a little education you can train your children to resist unwanted touch. Perpetrators are typically intimidated by educated children, and will most likely back off. Knowledge is power for your child. Educate your child today on child abuse prevention. Prevention is fun and easy, give it a try. To read Some Parts are NOT for Sharing a child’s first book on body safety visit: http://juliefederico.com/books/some-parts-are-not-for-sharing/ There is no greater gift a parent can give than the gift of safety.
Please protect your children today. This book is also available in Spanish and coloring book format.
April was Child Abuse Awareness Month. I do not think one is enough to raise awareness of child abuse that is why I am submitting this article in May. I think it is wonderful that April is set aside to bring awareness to this problem. I also have to wonder how it feels to be an abused child in a household filled with control and abuse? I imagine it feels awful lonely and as time goes on and no one rescues you the hopelessness that sets in must be suffocating. Abused children, I am sure wish every month was Child Abuse Awareness Month. I work to train parents on how to keep their kids safe from child abuse. I also teach young children how to speak up and get help when they are in abusive situations. It definitely takes a village to intervene with this problem. I am ending childhood sexual abuse one book at a time but this not fast enough for those living with abuse daily. It is not fast enough for the five children every day who die from abuse. #fiveisenough. 1,825 children a year die from child abuse. This is staggering to my mind and soul. I feel as if I am holding life preserves with my landmark body safety book Some Parts are NOT for Sharing/Algunas Partes NO Son para Compartir. But just because I hold the life preservers that doesn’t mean I can save everyone. But five children a day, every day still perish usually at the hands of their parents from abuse. More needs to be done. More public service announcements, billboards, commercials, and education. I am a huge supporter of Erin’s Law, which is moving, across our country 37 states have supported the law. The purpose of the law is to train all school-age children on child abuse prevention. There are some lawmakers who oppose this bill; they are not doing my cause any favors. But on the positive side, many states have adopted the law and are making a difference in the lives of children. Education is the best method for preventing child abuse. An ounce of prevention can change a child’s life. Would you like to change a child’s life today? If so you can:
Share this information: Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Every year 3.3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States involving nearly 6 million children (a report can include multiple children). The United States has the worst record in the industrialized nation – losing five
A. Call your neighborhood elementary school, or daycare and ask if you can come in and read Some Parts are NOT for Sharing to a class. B. Contact your local PBS station and ask if they would be interested in airing a child abuse prevention public service announcement. C. Share this link then order from this site when you need birthday presents, baby shower gifts. Books offered at 30% off retail. https://squareup.com/store/childrens-services-author-julie-federico D. Ask your local library to add the book to their collection.
If everyone puts forth some effort these efforts will multiply and benefit our children. Let’s work to make the five a day child abuse deaths a thing of the past. You can make a difference today.
Are you still seeking one more present for your little one? Some Parts are NOT for Sharing is a children’s book for readers 0-9 years old. This is probably the most important holiday gift that a parent can give a child, the gift of safety. This book teaches children in a non-threatening manner what to do if they encounter unwanted touch and what parts of our bodies we share with others. This book is a lifeline for children navigating the world they live in. The book is simple and uses straightforward language, it offers vital information that every family needs. This book is also available in Spanish. To order visit: goo.gl/oto5Mb
Recent review by Kaycee666
“Short story, very important content that children need to know!
It is a short story book; it is direct and to the point and I love the way it is worded. I feel it is very easy for my four year old to understand and am grateful for the content of the book as I had no idea how I would explain the subject to my toddler otherwise.”
As school is back in session and your children are meeting new teachers and people it is important to review body safety rules with them for the upcoming year. You may be asking, “What is body safety?” Good question. Body safety is teaching children that their body is their own. No one should touch them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable. Most importantly if someone does touch them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable you want to know about it. By reviewing or introducing this information it does two things. Firstly and most importantly it opens the door for your child to confide in you if something happens. If you say nothing, they will say nothing. Child abuse is built on silence and is like a house of cards. Without the silence one card falls, then the whole structure collapses. Many parents do not say anything out of fear. Fear that if they say something somehow this will invite the abuse. This thinking is flawed but permeates our society. See no evil, hear no evil. Meanwhile, children are being abused at an alarming rate. This static is from the Huffington Post: “Every 98 seconds someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted. That means every single day more than 570 people experience sexual violence in this country.”
I could not find an accurate breakdown for children and sexual assault because this information is under-documented. Most children do not tell an adult about being harmed. If you give your children this information chances are that they will talk to you if something happens. If you open the door to this subject with children it will go along way to keeping them safe.
“The primary reason that the public is not sufficiently aware of child sexual abuse as a problem is that 73% of child victims do not tell anyone about the abuse for at least a year. 45% of victims do not tell anyone for at least 5 years. Some never disclose (Smith et al., 2000; Broman-Fulks et al., 2007” http://www.cachouston.org/child-sexual-abuse-facts/
The second reason this information is so crucial is that when sharing this information with your child you are reinforcing with your child what they already know to be true. When children are touch inappropriately radar goes off blaring, “This is wrong, this is not safe.” By you talking to your child about this before something happens you will be present in their mind and will be with them in thought if something unsafe does happen. They will say to themselves, “Mom and Dad told me this wrong. They told me what to do. I know what to do.” With this scenario you and your children are golden. Your child will only be encountering unwanted touched most like once before you intervene. Child abuse is very simple. It is built on fear and silence. Parents can go a long way to keeping their children safe by doing preventative education. It is not hard to protect your children from unwanted touch; it is very hard to clean up after long-term abuse has occurred.
I worked as a middle school counselor for over a decade and heard awful stories of trauma and abuse. One day it dawned on me, “Is no one talking to the little people?” I wanted to begin talking to the little people for all of the children at my school that I could not protect. My students were 11- 14 years old. The abuse they encountered happened from 2-8 years old. I could not help them; I could not do anything but remediation work. One afternoon I wrote Some Parts are NOT for Sharing in one sitting. I believe it was God inspired. I am just the vehicle to send out this message. My first draft was my last draft. The first publisher I sent it to picked it up and published my work. If you have ever tried to write a book or known someone who has, you know God completely drives this story. It is never this simple. It was ten years ago in August that I wrote the book. I am getting my message out to young people but there are always still so many, many children I have not reached yet. Hoping to spread some prevention information this fall to the children of Denver. There is no greater gift that a parent can give their child than the gift of safety. To order Some Parts are NOT for Sharing visit E bay: goo.gl/77fStV
This book is also available in Spanish.
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1. Over 90% of reports involving unwanted touch happen between family members and close personal friends. Children are not being harmed by strangers as much as the media projects this image. At the holiday season with family gatherings children are very much at risk. With the information in this blog your children will be informed about this important under discussed topic. 2. 4 years of age is the average age children are first approached by someone. 3. Most parents do not talk to their children about unwanted touch. Prevention is power a few words of “your body is your own” will go along way. 4. Teach your children to talk to you about unwanted touch, stress that they will not be in trouble for reporting. Tell them that you want to know if someone touches them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable. 5. Read Some Parts are NOT for Sharing with your child. You can read this book for free at www.juliefederico.com
Children need information on this important topic. The gift of safety is the greatest give a parent can give their child. Put this book under your tree this year.
Some Parts are NOT for Sharing is #6 on Amazon today in Children’s Abuse Books! This book is for reader’s 0-7 years old. It belongs in every home, school, daycare, church and dentist/doctor’s office. I am thrilled that people are finding the book, thanks Amazon. I can not work fast enough to get the book out to everyone and protect all children. Looking for a SEO guy or gal to volunteer some time to help me with computer details. This is a message all children must hear. The best way to do that is through and SEO expert. When I see the word SEO I think; “Someone, Everyone, Only one.” Clearly I am not an SEO expert.
If you have not read Some Parts are NOT for Sharing visit www.juliefederico.com today. There is no greater gift a parent can give their child than the gift of safety.